
So after reading my "That was Creepy" post (see below), my mother-in-law apparently told Sari that maybe she ought to be heading home... that maybe I was in need of some sort of mental help (I am paraphrasing here).
Be that as it may... Sari and the girls are still not home (so what does that tell you..... hmmmmm?). But, in order to prove that I have not gone "completely off my nut" so to speak, I have a serious question for you. One that I would really like some feedback on..... please give me your thoughts. (PS. If you go to church with us in Estevan, you are going to hear this again at some point - so either check out now or jump in and help shape the conversation).
Ok - here is my train of thought and what prompted it.....
1. I saw a story on the noon news today about a new company in the States that is called "Rent a Grandma". The idea: instead of getting the 15 year old from down the street to look after your children, you "rent a Grandma"... an older lady who comes in and looks after the kids, maybe does a little baking, runs some errands etc. Not a bad idea, right? I mean, they have experience with kids. They all have their criminal record checks done. Best of all.... you know that they aren't going to be spending all night ignoring your kids while texting their boyfriends (or likely not anyway).
So here is the part that got me thinking: People were RAVING over this idea. I mean - it is a good idea - but they were going on and on about how nice it is to have this older person around, how they are benefiting from their experience, etc, etc. (Ok - hold that thought and let me bring in "Exhibit B")
2. When Steve Jobs (the "Apple guy") died last week, there was this big outpouring of emotion. I mean, people left flowers outside of Apple stores. People were crying. Several people on the news said stuff like "He changed my life".
Really???? I mean - he may have changed the way we listen to music, or the way some people use their computers or their phones, but "changed my life"????? To the best of my knowledge, those people never met Steve Jobs. Besides, even if he did "change the world", he was not doing it for humanitarian purposes.... he was not a "Mother Teresa" figure working with the poor in the streets of Calcutta (though I am certain that he was very generous with his money, helped people etc)..... he did what he did FOR PROFIT. He was running a business!!!! He was trying to create products that people wanted!!!!
Now - here is my question(s).... honestly help me out here.
What is going on here???? Are these stories a commentary on our society today???? (Let me explain)
Is "Rent a Grandma" a good idea because it is a "good idea" or are people so disconnected from their real families that they are longing for a "Grandma figure" (and Family in general)? Could it be that people are so scattered all over the world - and so isolated from their loved ones - that any connection to someone who looks like a caring, motherly/Grandmotherly person is great (even if you have to pay for her to hang around)????
As for Steve Jobs: In actual fact, Henry Ford did as much to "change the world" of the average person as Jobs did (maybe more). Think about all the people who drove Model Ts and who still drive cars today. Think about the assembly line (which he helped to perfect and popularize)..... now think about this: Was there the same outpouring of emotion when he died???? No way!
So the real baseline question: Are we just so "connected" to our world that the passing of Steve Jobs impacts because we have had access to people that we otherwise would not (so it is a "good thing")..... or....
Is our world so "disconnected" from real relationships and real people that we long for a real Grandma and we cry when as stranger dies as if he was a real friend of ours.
My bias (probably obviously if you know me or can read between the lines) is that I think that we are hopelessly isolated. I think people know more about what Oprah thinks than they do about what their parents, their siblings and certainly their next door neighbour thinks.
I think we cry over Steve Jobs because we long for relationships, but do not have real ones.... so instead we get emotionally attached to movie stars, people in magazines and football teams (Just listen to how dismayed people are that the Riders are missing the playoffs. I mean - nothing has happened to the guys in the coffee shop who are all down about it.... IT IS NOT HAPPENING TO YOU - WIN OR LOSE!!!)
I think that we watch the news and think that somehow we are involved in something, so we react as if we are when really we are just sitting there. Every night when I walk the dog - every house has the TV on and ... when I can peek through the window... I see two or three people just sitting there staring at it .... in house after house after house.... including my own (much more often than I like to admit).
So - are we better off for being "connected" or have our "fake connections" made us more isolated?
What say you?
(Ok - obviously I have had no one to talk to for several days. We will go back to our regularly scheduled blog of silliness tomorrow). :)